Your wedding day will be full of surprises, and not all of them are going to put a smile on your face. Even with precise planning, you may find yourself snapping your fingers at the last minute exclaiming, "Why didn't I do this?" or "How could I forget that!" But relax! Your wedding day is supposed to be one of the most romantic, fun and exciting days of your life. You should let your experiences enhance your day, not drag it down. After all, who wants to be stressed on their wedding day? We're looking at 11 tips for brides on how to ‘altar’ your best day, going from stress to satisfaction when saying "I do!"
#1 // Take some Downtime before the Big Day
Wedding planning is one of the most exciting, stressful experiences you will ever have. You've likely spent months, if not a year planning out your big day right down to the smallest detail. This is why you need to take some downtime the week before your wedding. De-stress and don't let the word 'wedding' leave your mouth.
Plan a girl’s night, get pampered, go to the movies, read a book, take a bubble bath or have a Netflix binge with your hubby-to-be. Whatever makes you happy, do it! You should feel refreshed leading up to your big day, not frazzled.
#2 // Pack Days before Your Wedding
One of the most fantastic tips for brides pre-wedding day is to get all your packing done early. Create a list of things you'll need to bring to the ceremony such as makeup, pantyhose, and bobby pins and set them aside. This way you'll have plenty of time to slowly add to your carry-case in case you forget anything.
If you are leaving for your honeymoon right after the wedding, make sure you have your bags packed and ready to go on your wedding day. This is one less thing for you to worry about before your ceremony. By packing a week in advance you'll know that all your clothes are clean, packed, and put away. The only thing for you to do is to pick up and go!
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#3 // Leave the Stressing to the Professionals
You hired professional help for a reason. Your wedding planner has seen it all, from runaway brides to power outages. When it comes to knowing if the cake arrives on time or whether there is a backup venue in case your beach ceremony gets rained out, leave the stressing to the professionals. It's what you pay them for.
If you haven’t hired any wedding planner or coordinator, assign these duties to someone else. The maid of honor and the best man can be given the responsibility of making sure your DJ is set up, the food is in order, and that you and your fiance know where to stand during the ceremony. These are small details that you shouldn't have to worry about on your wedding day.
#4 // Get a Good Night’s Sleep
Your wedding day is going to be long, chaotic, and loads of fun, so it goes without saying that you should get an excellent night’s sleep before the big day. Going to bed early, and sober, the night before your wedding will help you get as much beauty sleep as possible and help you stay energized for the crazy day ahead.
If you are planning a bachelorette party, plan it the week before your actual ceremony. After all, you want to arrive at your venue looking fresh as a daisy, not frazzled and hungover.
#5 // Eat a High Protein Breakfast
Your wedding day will be full steam ahead from the moment you get up until the moment you go to sleep. When nerves are high it may be difficult to think about scarfing down some hearty oatmeal or sausage and eggs, but eating a high protein breakfast will help keep your energy up throughout the day. You'll need it!
#6 // Wear Comfortable Shoes
Another one of our great tips for brides? Wear comfortable shoes on your wedding day, you may even bring a spare pair. Those 5-inch stilettos are going to make you look like a supermodel when you walk down the aisle, but they'll prove themselves useless when they're tossed under your head table as soon as you get to the reception. When it comes to enjoying yourself on your wedding day, dancing and all, choose cute flats or kitten heels that won't pinch your feet.
#7 // Have Real Conversations at the Wedding
It's easy to get wrapped up in being the blushing bride, but by the time your wedding starts you're going to be off the "Wedding Talk" bandwagon. As a great hostess, you'll be going from table to table thanking your guests for coming and engaging in some mild chit-chat. When you do, make sure to talk about the person you're engaging with instead of talking about the wedding. Having real conversations with your guests will make your experience seem more personal and engaging, instead of going through the motions.
#8 // Have a List of Events
Creating a list of events set out on each table will help both you and your guests understand the flow of the night. List the time of the dinner, as well as your first dance, garter toss, and when your guests should expect to see you cutting the cake. This list will help both you and your reception attendees feel more organized and in the loop of what's going on.
#9 // Be Present During Your Vows
Great tips for brides always include the reminder to be present during your vows. It can be easy to get lost in the stress that comes from planning your wedding but don't forget that behind the venue, the catering, and the big white dress and tux, your wedding is about you and your partner publicly declaring your love for your friends and family. It's about two people sharing their lives together. When you are saying your vows, look into your partner's eyes and really hear the words you're saying. You'll be glad you did this.
#10 // Leave the Photographs to Everyone Else
We get so caught up in taking the perfect picture of a moment that sometimes we forget to actually live in it. When it comes to your wedding day, forget taking selfies and leave all the photography to the professionals.
Live in the moment and embrace every second of your wedding day. You'll love that you kept your phone away and focused on the magic of being with each other during this time.
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#11 // Take a Private Moment after the Ceremony
Despite your wedding day being about two people joining their lives together, you won't get to see your spouse that much. Or rather, you won't be able to spend much quality time together. Your reception is all about being a good host, interacting with family members, and following a line of traditions such as the garter play, dinner, the first dance, the bouquet toss and more. Make sure you take a private moment after your ceremony to embrace your mate and rejoice the celebration of your marriage.
Rachael Pace is a relationship expert with years of experience in training and helping couples. She has helped countless individuals and organizations around the world, offering effective and efficient solutions for healthy and successful relationships. She is a featured writer for Marriage.com, a reliable resource to support healthy happy marriages. Be like Rachael. Contribute a Broomstick blog article here.